When You Have an Identity Crisis

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Here's a reminder of who you are in Christ.
Here's a reminder of who you are in Christ. (iStockPhoto | Larszahner Photography)

My identity rests securely in the fact that God has redeemed me ... called me by name ... I'm HIS (Isaiah 43:1).

Sometimes I look at this list I made a few years ago and remind myself again ... who I am.

I am a new creation (Colossians 3:9-10); God's workmanship (Ephesians 2:10); loved (Ephesians 2:4, 1 Thessalonians 1:4); precious in God's eyes, honored and loved (Isaiah 43:4); redeemed (Isaiah 43:1); Called by name (Isaiah 43:1); free from condemnation (Romans 8:2); forgiven (Ephesians 1:7, Colossians 2:12); a child of God (1 Peter 1:23) Christ lives in me (Galatians 2:20), a friend of God (John 15:15), blessed with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3); chosen (Ephesians 1:4, Colossians 3:12); holy and beloved (Colossians 3:12, Ephesians 5:1); righteous (2 Corinthians 5:21); have a reason to be joyful, prayerful and thankful (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18); filled with the Holy Spirit and all His fruit (Galatians 5:22); saved by grace (Ephesians 2:8-9); reconciled to God (Romans 5:6-11); more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37); free (John 8:36, Galatians 5:1) an ambassador (2 Corinthians 5:20); holy and blameless before Him (Colossians 1:22); called out of darkness into His glorious light (1 Peter 2:9, Colossians 1:13); an overcomer (Revelation 12:11); a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20); the light of the world (Matthew 5:14); not of those who shrink back and are destroyed, but of those who have faith and preserve their souls. (Hebrews 10:39). And even if I am afflicted in every way, I am not crushed; perplexed, I will not be driven to despair; persecuted, I will not be forsaken; struck down, I will not destroyed (2 Corinthians 4:7-10).

Sometimes it helps to remind myself that I am so much more than I think I am.

I am not defined by my successes or my failures.

Say it again.

I am not defined by my failures.

I am not defined by what I accomplish, what I say, what I don't say, how I parent, how I teach, how I take care of my home, how much I read or pray or study or speak or write, how many friends I have, how much time I spend doing anything or everything ... I am defined ONLY BY HIM.

I think right now my favorite definition of me is precious. That has been my favorite for a long time.

Maybe it is because I felt so "unprecious" when my husband left. In his eyes I was not an excellent wife.

"She is more precious than rubies, and all the things you may desire are not to be compared with her" (Proverbs 3:15).

"Who can find a virtuous woman? For her worth is far above rubies" (Proverbs 31:10).

Maybe it is because I feel unworthy of being precious to anyone.

Not that God hasn't put people in my life who treat me as precious. He has. Definitely.

Why do I feel so unworthy of being considered anything good? Why does it feel like a sham?

... and yet God ...

God says I am.

I am precious.

"Since you were precious in My sight, you have been honorable, and I have loved you" (Isaiah 43:4).

Precious.

Honored.

Loved.

Those aren't words that define a failure.

But they do define me.

Logically, that must mean I'm not a failure.

I am defined by who I am in Christ ... not who I am in my mind.

Yet another area that I need to focus on Christ not myself.

I'm so thankful for the two-by-four of truth that God gave me the other night. I'm so thankful that He never seems to tire of telling me again and again and again who I am ... that I am His.

I'm so thankful that I am not defined by what or how I feel, but rather by who He is.

I am His.

I am precious.

I am all that He says I am.

"I will greatly rejoice in the Lord, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for He has clothed me with the garments of salvation, He has covered me with the robe of righteousness" (Isaiah 61:10).

Sue Birdseye is an author and single mom of five kids. Her book, When Happily Ever After Shatters (Tyndale House) is in bookstores. This is adapted from her blog, uptomytoes.com

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