Remembering Our Fallen on Memorial Day

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Being part of a gold star family is like being part of an honored and exclusive club—but one that no one wants to join. The gold star indicates that a member of that family died while serving their country. We are a three-star blue star family, which means we currently have three family members serving with sons in the Marines, Air Force and Army. We've weathered deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq—praying our way through each day they were there. We never want to add another gold star to our family.

Yes, our family is a gold star family because of my grandfather, SSGT Walter Rawleigh, a bombardier on a B-24. He was on his 47th mission in Madang, Papua New Guinea. Fully gassed and loaded with bombs, the "Cisco Kid II" had an engine malfunction on take-off and crashed into an encampment of Seabees having breakfast. Ten members of the crew and 165 Seabees suddenly died that day. Obviously, I never knew my grandfather, and my dad was a young child when his father perished. I know that my father, Chief Master Sgt. Rodger Rawleigh, USAF (Ret.) was inspired to serve because of the fact his dad never came back from war.

Memorial Day

Memorial Day is about gold star families and should not be confused with Veteran's Day. The latter is a day that honors all who have served in the United States military. A memorial is a remembrance of those who paid the ultimate sacrifice. It's not a day to say, "Happy Memorial Day," even though many Americans have a day off. Many will use that time to picnic and enjoy their families and friends. In fact, the original tradition of this day was to eat a picnic while sitting on the grounds of a cemetery.

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This national holiday was first recognized by Congress in 1971 and before that time it was known as Decoration Day, which originated shortly after the Civil war. Besides my grandfather's tragic accident, 645,000 Americans have given their lives in defense of our freedoms. What can we do to appropriately honor those who died? I'm glad you asked.

The Poppy

Honoring our fallen with a poppy is a tradition that was inspired by the poem crafted in 1915 entitled, "In Flanders Fields." It was written by Lt. Col John McCrae after he lost a friend during World War I. McCrae's poem inspired Moina Michael, an American professor and volunteer for the American YWCA, to write a response poem, "We Shall Keep the Faith," vowing to wear a red poppy as a symbol of remembrance.

Michaels campaigned to have the red poppy adopted as a national symbol of remembrance and, with help from Anna Guerin and the 1920 National American Legion Conference, the flower became the official symbol of remembrance.

But it's not limited to our country. The poppy is used as a symbol of remembrance all over the world. In fact, Friday, May 25, 2018, is National Poppy DayTM, which was first recognized on May 26, 2017. Along with the American Legion, we encourage people to wear or display a poppy on this day to remember those who lost their lives in battle.

Virtual Poppy Field

I invite everyone to join the conversation online using #honorthroughaction and share your story. What does Memorial Day mean to you? Who are you honoring? You can visit poppyinmemory.com to dedicate a digital poppy to a fallen hero or as a gesture of appreciation for those who have sacrificed all. It only takes minutes to participate, and I want to thank USAA for sponsoring this initiative and for all their help in Heroes at Home.

Honor the fallen today.

Ellie Kay is the best-selling author of 15 books, a media veteran of 2800+ interviews and the founder of the nonprofit, Heroes at Home 501(c)(3). As a speaker at more than 1000 events, she's earned the elite Toastmaster Designation of Accredited Speaker, an honor she achieved in 2015 out of four million Toastmasters past and present. She is married to the world's greatest fighter pilot, and they have seven financially smart Millennials as well as six grandchildren. To follow her blog or contact her, go to elliekay.com and heroesathome.com. The Kays make their home in Los Angeles County, California.

This article originally appeared at elliekay.com.

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