3 Ways to 'Mind the Gap' Between Truth and the Enemy's Lies

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Steve and I have had a delightful time traveling over the past several weeks. We've been in England and then in Kenya, speaking at a conference run by one of our partners for missionaries. What a joy!

Everywhere you travel in the U.K., before you get on the tube (subway) or an airplane, there's a sign that reads "Mind the Gap." It's reminder that there's a gap between where your feet are planted and where you need to step.

In the same way, there is often a gap in our thinking, between our expectations and what actually transpires. In those moments, disappointment floods our heart, and it's easy to take offense or spiral down into negative thinking. The apostle Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:8 what's to govern our thinking: " Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think on these things." So when life throws us a curve ball, relationships disappoint, or circumstances cripple—we need to mind the gap in our thinking. How do we do that?

3 Questions to Ask Yourself When You're Trying to Mind the Gap in Your Thinking

What is the truth in this situation? Often when we're traveling, there are very long lines going through passport control or security. The transport security people in any given country are not always pleasant. If I set my mind that we're going to get through security quickly and easily, I experience disappointment—almost every time. Just yesterday when we arrived in London from Kenya, it took a solid hour to get through passport control. The lines were long, and the place was mobbed. My first inclination was to groan inwardly and complain. As I looked at the massive mob of people in front of me, I knew I had to "mind the gap" in my thinking. So internally, I asked myself, What is the truth in this situation? The truth was, it would take a while, and we needed to be patient. The truth was, we would get to our hotel to rest, but not as quickly as I had hoped.

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What are some noble characteristics of the person who disappointed me? Our friends and loved ones are not perfect. Instead of spinning a story in your head about their intentions, choose to focus on their positive character traits. Likely, they didn't mean to hurt you. Most often people are just too wrapped up in their own chaos to meet the need you might have. This is understandable. Don't assign motives. Instead, offer grace. Focus on the person's nobility.

After Jesus rode into Jerusalem triumphantly on the back of a donkey, the disciples probably thought this was the magic moment when Jesus would set up His kingdom on earth. Imagine their disappointment when just a short time later, He was crucified. Don't you wonder how they processed those events in their thinking? I wonder if they came up with personal plans to mind the gap in their thinking by rehearsing all the truth they knew to be true about Jesus?

Next time someone disappoints you, "mind the gap" and make a list of the person's most noble character traits.

Where is God in this disappointment? I remember a season in our daughter's life when she didn't make a certain choir at a state university. She felt devastated in that moment, and her thinking began to spiral down into thoughts of "Maybe I'm not good enough. Maybe I really can't sing." I remember saying to our teen, "Maybe God has a different plan." As she considered that question, she applied to a Christian university that had a dynamic worship arts program. She worked hard on her audition piece and crushed it. The years Keri spent at that university were life-changing for her, and she now is an accomplished worship leader. When disappointment hits, it's best to "mind the gap" and ask yourself, Where is God in this? Is He leading me in a different direction? Does He want to develop humility in my life? Here's what I know: God can use even the most disappointing circumstances to shape and mold us into the image of His Son, Jesus Christ.

Friend, when you experience disappointment this week, mind the gap in your thinking and take time to consider any lesson God might have for you.

Becky Harling, an author, certified speaker, leadership coach and trainer with the John Maxwell Team, is an energetic and motivational international speaker inspiring audiences to overcome their greatest life challenges and reach their full God-given potential. Her most recent book is How to Listen So People Will Talk. Her husband, Steve Harling, is the president of Reach Beyond, a nonprofit organization seeking to be the voice and hands of Jesus around the world.

This article originally appeared at beckyharling.com.

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