Turning our lights out and pretending Halloween doesn't exist doesn't mean it ceases to exist. Our refusal to acknowledge the day doesn't make it go away.
There are many, many people who are in deep distress but are not at a moment of crisis right now. Providing support and help may prevent them from ever getting to that point.
Vulnerability isn't easy, which is why it's often spoken of in terms of courage. When you're vulnerable, you share something of your life with someone—and you never know, really, how that will be received.
When your spouse hurts you, your natural response may be to lash out in anger or to isolate and withdraw. Instead, look at these aspects of the situation, and be more intentional about how you respond and what you do next.
Is Christ Lord of our whole life, or do we limit His reign to certain "pockets"? Do we only seek God's hand when we need something, or do we pursue His heart?